Refine my life

with the divorce comes change. some changes that are part of being a single mom, some changes I want to make, because I can. while searching the net I found a list of things to simplify your life. Let's see how many of these I can actually follow

Lose the premium channels on your cable TV. Not a chance in hell
Lose your pay-per-view converter. It's cheaper than late fees
Lose cable altogether. One luxury that I need
Lose TV altogether. Refer to #1 on the list
Walk and ride your bike more and use your car less. My love muffin & I are going bike riding this weekend
When you drive in your car, use your radio less and embrace silence more. Yes, I do, on occasion. Although I find music to be very therapeutic
Set aside a few minutes each day for quiet prayer or reflection. I don't have a few minutes
Give money away. I wish I had enough to share. Unfortunately, that is NOT the case
Give stuff away. Working on this one
Throw stuff away. This too
Eat less meat. If I think about the original source, I would eat less meat
Eat less. Yes - thank you adipex
Drink water, juice, and milk more, soft drinks and alcohol less. Right now, some alcohol is essential for my sanity
Bake bread from scratch in your own kitchen. I'm not Betty Crocker
Take a nap. LOVE naps
Read some history. Wish I could but it must be interesting
Write some poetry. roses are red...
Hum, sing, or whistle, even if you have a tin ear. I have a few songs that I sing my heart out
Walk outside and find something beautiful (or not-so-beautiful) that's growing; then just stare it for a while. Then stare at it some more. good idea

The Big "D"

it was a long awaited day. divorce day. if you don't "know" me, the comment may seem inappropriate but it was a way of erecting a big neon sign that says "It's over. That part of my life is behind me now". So there. That's it. I'll save the 'what went wrong' drama for another blog - maybe. It's over. The drama continues but I am officially a divorcee. The boys and I are all adjusting well. We've had a few bumps in the road but that is expected. We deserve to be happy and safe and now....we are!

School has begun

So far, not so bad. School started. Three kids. Three different schools.

It is a work in progress that we have a few kinks to work out but overall, it's working. Dalton is so excited he wakes at 5:30 AM (well before I get up) to get ready, shower and eat breakfast. Mason is NOT my early riser. I literally drag his feet off the bed until he's hanging, at which point he finally stands up. Rylan just requires a little attention and silliness to get moving. All in all, not a big change from our summer routine.

I really am blessed to have such amazing boys.

Times are changing

Dalton has been talking to a girl that I’ll call Nancy. She rides a dirtbike, they talk or text ALL of the time and she is a little older than him. Last night he wants to invite her over for dinner. After listening to his whining, and thinking it’s really not a big deal, I reluctantly agree. Secretly I might have been hoping that her parents would say no. Dalton gets re-dressed, fixed his hair and comes into the kitchen while I’m cooking to find a tablecloth for the table. Because he has done the tablecloth thing before, I’ve realized he thinks that means something special. To me, tablecloths mean one more thing to wash. Okay – whatever. She arrives (a bit to my surprise) and they go to his room so he can show her his trophies, then to the living room to watch the Olympics. Thank goodness Mason and Rylan didn’t leave their side. After dinner they go back to the living room. I take the dogs outside and they come out (thank goodness). I hate to be this overprotective, sneaky mom, but let’s face it – times are changing. He is about ½ foot shorter than she is. They walk out holding hands. As they walk towards the back yard, he looks over his shoulder & smiles at me. Yes Dalton, I see you’re holding her hand. Oh gosh, I’ve got a hormone crazed child on my hands!

Blog Flog

So I forgot my password, reset it, forgot it again and reset it this morning. So....I will be back to blogging this afternoon. I have LOTS to blog about.

Frazzled

I'm a little frazzled right now -- nervous about my mother's surgery tomorrow. The boys are with their father for the remainder of the week....he was kind enough to give me a little break with all of this going on. I miss them terribly but after spending the day tomorrow at the hospital, I will not be at my best, so it's probably a good idea. So...if you're ready this, please take a moment to say a little prayer.

Quotes to ponder...

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude. -Denis Waitley

You can never get enough of what you don't need to make you happy. -Eric Hoffer

When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. - Helen Keller

People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within. - Ramona L. Anderson

The Fishing Trip

Day 1: My brother Jon, my best friend Beth and my boyfriend Dennis and I were getting away for the weekend. We headed to the coast about 10:00 AM on Friday. At 10:30, I had my first beer. Give me a break – this is officially my “VACATION”…besides, it’s 5 o’clock somewhere, right? After several hours in the car and many drinks later, we arrive and head for the water. The ride out wasn’t too bad, partly because of the high level of intoxication. We fish for a few hours and get nothing so we decide to grab some dinner…the corndogs and burritos from the convenient store weren’t holding us over. I think I almost fell face first into my dinner, I was so exhausted.

Day 2: Up at the crack of dawn, before 6 AM and get on the boat. The mosquitoes were awful. For some reason, the mosquitoes in this area are the size of small birds. We head out. I sit on the floor of the boat because I feel safer. We start our adventure. The boat was going so freaking fast, I was a nervous wreck……where are my xanax? Beth and I both were preparing for the boat to flip at any given moment. Our knuckles were white from gripping every part of the boat that we thought would hold us in. We finally get to the point where we’ll stop and start fishing. Poor Beth. She got sick. She asked for the coast guard, but this really was not a medical emergency. I got a bite. It was big. I had to put the belt on. I had my feet pressed against the side of the boat, belt on, Dennis holding me, then holding my pole. This fish was not giving up. I fought him for a while and ultimately, the line broke. BUMMER! I had a big one. We continued on fishing in different locations. Dennis caught a kingfish and a pink fish, I caught some bait fish – as did Jon, but no keepers. Did I mention Beth was still sick? Yea….she was sick the entire day. Oh….and I caught three fish at one time, that’s impressive, right?